As we approach the spring equinox, I notice the baby squirrels and birds chirping in their safe little nests, and I’m reminded of how I always wanted to have kids.
For years, I imagined exactly how I would homeschool them, travel with them to show them the world. I even bought a beautiful baby book and put it on my shelf.
One day I was sitting with my parents, lamenting the fact that I was in my late 30s and still didn’t have kids. “What are you waiting for?” my dad said. I replied with, “I’m not sure now is the right time.” And then he said the wisest thing. He said, “If I had waited until I was ready to have kids, I’d just be having them now, in my 60s. You can’t wait until you’re ready. If you want something, the best time to do it is now.”
If only I would have listened …
That was over 10 years ago. I’m now in my 50s and I don’t have kids. It’s too late. I can’t even imagine chasing a little ball of energy around the house or waking up several times a night for feeding.
But a part of me still wishes I had kids.
Planting Your Ideas the Right Way
Spring as a metaphor is when we figuratively plant things, like ideas for projects. Whether you’re 20 or 50 or 90, it’s important to plant the seeds of your soul’s true desires soon after you have them. Like me with my dream of having children, if you wait too long, you may miss an opportunity.
But how do you plant ideas?
Like seeds, we need to push our ideas into the depth of darkness so they can grow strong roots. Practically, this means keeping your ideas to yourself and not telling people about your big vision.
If you have a great idea for a book, for instance, don’t tell anyone unless you are absolutely certain they will be supportive. A coach or mentor is a good choice. Unfortunately, many people you love and respect may let their insecurities and fears influence their advice and try to talk you out of an idea. This may result in feelings of deflation and “what’s the use?”.
Telling others about your ideas may also dissipate your enthusiasm. It’s like giving seeds to friends instead of planting them. The more apple seeds you give away, the fewer you have to plant, the less apples you receive. The same can be true with the energy behind your fun idea. Try keeping your ideas mostly to yourself.
When you really want to grow something like a book, let the darkness help you develop strong roots, or a solid foundation, so when you are ready to tell people, you feel grounded in your purpose.
What if it’s too Late?
When I realized I’d missed my opportunity to have kids, I felt heart-broken. So I asked myself, why did I want to have kids? What experiences did I imagine I’d have if I had kids? Suddenly I realized why I wanted kids and I also realized I could recreate many of the experiences in different ways. Is it the same thing? No. Could it be totally fulfilling? Absolutely.
So, what is the one thing you really want to do that you are not doing?
What are you waiting for?
No seriously. What are you waiting for?
It is never too late to recalibrate your life.
You may not be able to fulfill the dreams you had in your youth, but you can create something that is similar, 100% fulfilling, and meaningful.
The time is now. What are you waiting for?
Take time today to recalibrate and get really clear about what you desire, even if it’s just a feeling, like to be happy.
Don’t wait another minute. Start right now.
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