What do you see?
At first glance you might see beautiful, colorful flowers. But upon closer inspection you see little imperfections.
The petals are rough around the edges, browning. The tomato is unripened, having fallen from the vine too soon. The geranium leaves are turning white, a sign of disease.
This is my basket of misfits, the discarded blooms that withered due to hardship or age.
Still, they’re beautiful.
Seeing with New Eyes
At first glance, the lives around you may seem beautiful, colorful. Perhaps you’ve felt envious of the visible success, the ease with which the women in your life grow their ideas and bloom into something magnificent. Things may look lovely, as though they haven’t a care in the world.
But upon closer inspection, you might notice something unexpected. The “soul-mate” coach is on the verge of divorce. The wealthy “business coach” is teetering on the edge of bankruptcy. The happy mother is becoming an alcoholic because the stress is overwhelming.
People’s lives aren’t always as they seem. When you look more closely, you see how the beautiful dimensions of life are woven with adversity–like the warp and weft of a basket, you can’t have one without the other.
It would be easy to judge, once the deeper truth is revealed, but what if we saw it a different way?
A Person’s True Personality
I’ve heard it said that, “A person’s true nature is revealed in tough times”, as though someone’s stress induced rage is who they really are, underneath all of the day-to-day joy, but I disagree.
We are multi-faceted beings with good days and challenging days. We snarl and sneer, laugh and dance. We are not one of these things, but all of them, and none of them.
You can’t summarize a flower’s essence based solely on what happens during a drought, when the color fades from the petals and the vine begins to wither.
The flower’s true essence can only be expressed by witnessing its entire existence: its potential, its day-to-day experience, its rooting and its blooming, its dying and its re-seeding.
The Joy of Living from Essence
When you live from your Essence you weave together the shadow and the light, creating a strong container to hold your purpose, your offering to the world.
Denying any aspect of your Essence creates a weak vessel, one that cannot hold the full power of your being.
To live from Essence, you must clear any ancestral wounds that limit your self perception, or tether you in place. Inherited beliefs, behaviors, and habits that do not serve you need to go.
When you break free from the binds that hold you back, you untether yourself and it sets you free.
You make room for the rich humus of your shadow and the brilliance of your light.
You create a stronger container that can hold the full power of your purpose.
You become a colorful bouquet of flowers that looks beautiful despite any roughness around the edges. Without apology, but wild grace.
May it be so.