The Hidden Reason for Grumpiness

Do you ever feel like the Energizer Bunny? You keep going, and going, and going…

In this fast-paced world it often feels necessary to constantly move about in order to get stuff done.

But here’s the thing: everything that grows–and that includes you and your work–needs a resting period. Without it, you’ll end up feeling grumpy instead of grateful.

So What’s Under Your Grumpy Mood?

Yesterday, a client told me she was feeling grumpy for no obvious reason.

She’d recently launched her new program and signed on several clients right away. She was super excited and on fire. But then, out of nowhere, she felt grumpy.

As we explored her mood shift I understood her problem. I drew a picture that looked like this and before I even said anything, I heard an audible “ohhh” come from her.

Growing Requires Moving through All Four Seasons

Just like an apple tree, you require four seasons for growing–spring, summer, autumn, winter–and if you try to skip a season, things can fall apart.

After my client told me about the events surrounding her grumpiness, I realized she was trying to skip winter, which is the period of rest. She had so much to do she kept going, and going, and going. Just like the Energizer Bunny.

In the spring of her project, she created a program she and her clients would love.

In the summer of her project, she put the finishing touches on her program and prepared to go live.

In the autumn of her project, she launched her program and signed on new clients.

When autumn was done, however, she didn’t move into the winter of her project and take time to integrate and regenerate. She kept going, and going, and going, and pretty soon her lack of rest caught up with her and grumpiness kicked in.

Assimilation and Integration are Essential

Once you reach a milestone in your life, you need to take time to assimilate and integrate, or things can suddenly fall apart. You need to spend some time in “winter” leaning into your new experiences, consciously letting go, intentionally lying fallow, so you can renew yourself in mind, body, and soul.

But we live in a culture that encourages the “go, go, go” mode. We tend to think of downtime as unproductive, not like a rich, regenerative period that leads to a stronger container (body) for more growth.

If you have a difficult time resting during the “winters” of your life, here are some ideas to help you get started.

“Winter” Daily Releasing Ritual

At the end of the day, while in bed or with your journal, reflect on what went well. Give thanks for these things.

Then imagine God or Goddess or the Universe in standing in front of you and give this being everything you collected throughout the day that you no longer need. I like to release arguments I had, anger I felt, frustrations, or anything I completed. I ask the Divine to take these released items from me so I don’t have to carry them into the next day. I always feel rejuvenated afterward. Then I fall peacefully to sleep.

“Winter” Releasing Ritual After a Finished Project or Goal

Once you hit a milestone, like after signing on a bunch of new clients, take time to regenerate. Relax for a day or a week. Sit in a hot tub. Go to a spa. Go for a hike. Do something to renew your energy and intentionally prepare for the next phase. Stop doing what you were doing and do something else. “Doing” Includes rest and the process of “not” doing something.

Regeneration is a necessary part of the growth process. It helps you become stronger so you can hold bigger energy and do bigger work.

So how will you honor the four seasons of your life?

About the Author:

I create unique soul medicine for strong, successful women to help them release the patterns that hold them back so they can live fully and powerfully from their Essential Self. To see if we’re a good fit to work together, set up a FREE session: Soul Medicine Session.