Finding Value in Adversity

When clients seek my help in finding a lifework focus we always start by discussing their lives from a holistic perspective. First we look at their past and present, then explore their future visions. We review their struggles, gifts, talents and skills. Then we find a way to put all of that together into a lifework path that inspires them and simultaneously fills the needs of a niche population.

Throughout this process my clients are often faced with a choice of whether or not to turn a past struggle into a lifework focus, like Susan Komen’s sister turned Susan’s struggle with breast cancer into “The Race for the Cure.” This race raises money for research and helps millions of people through the challenges of facing breast cancer.

Some of my clients opt not to take this path, preferring instead to leave their struggles behind and venture off into new territory.

Many find the idea intriguing, though. They recognize the value in helping people through a similar journey to one they’ve already made. They can see themselves as a guide, a helping hand, with some wisdom and a lot of invaluable experience, all of which may help people navigate the rough terrain of their similar journey.

For these people the idea of turning a past struggle into a lifework focus seems exciting, at least initially. It’s as though one of their life purposes has been illuminated, helping make sense of their fears and frustrations. They feel invigorated by possibility.

But almost immediately fear arises. The first question to appear is usually “Who am I to do this work? I’m not an expert.”

The second is often “I’m not ready. I need one more certificate so people take me seriously.”

This type of fear is common. It often means the person is headed in the right direction. It’s also a sign that they are facing a growing edge.

As an aside, a feeling of indifference is perhaps a sign that a person is not moving in the right direction.

Fortunately, with courage and commitment, turning past struggles into meaningful lifework can be a rewarding process.

To help illustrate my point, here are some examples of what a few of my clients are developing right now:

• One woman has successfully overcome cancer, chronic pain and several addictions, and uses bodywork, movement and spiritual guidance to help women with similar problems find deep healing on many levels.

• A spiritual guide and mother is raising a child with Aspergers and part of her work involves helping other families find their way through the challenges and opportunities that come with learning differences. Her work is unique because she is both a teacher and a spiritual guide. She can address both aspects of the challenges people face and help them engage their situation holistically.

• Another woman discovered a significant lack of support when she was grieving the loss of a loved animal companion. As a result, she has opened her heart and spiritual guidance practice to people who are struggling with the loss of a dearly loved pet. She also helps people resolve animal related behavior problems and challenges. No longer do people have to suffer in silence over the loss of their loved animal friends.

This is just a small example of the incredible work being developed by my clients. I am so proud of these women and the many others in my programs who are taking small and huge steps in turning their struggles into lifework that has depth and value. I can hardly wait to introduce them to you after their websites are done and ready for public viewing!

But that is a topic for another ezine.

In the meantime, I have included a few questions you can explore for your own work

If you are just starting out

If you are currently in the process of trying to define a lifework path, think about any adversities you’ve overcome.

Do other people struggle with the same or a similar challenge?

Is there a way to use your experience to help other people?

How can you combine that experience with your gifts, skills and other interests to create meaningful lifework?

If you are a veteran in your field

If you have been in business for awhile and need new direction with your lifework or want to add a product or service that helps more people, think about difficulties you or your clients have overcome.

Have you noticed any common themes emerging?

How you might create a service or course that addresses that issue?

People don’t have to struggle alone

There are a lot of people out there who feel like they are alone. They may be experiencing the same or a similar challenge to one you experienced, and they could really use a mentor or guide or teacher or healer to help them through the process.